"BLAMING SOMEONE ELSE
FOR YOUR PROBLEMS? 
SOME PEOPLE DO"
By Evangelist Diana Gray
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 KJV Bible For All Scripture

     A special area of needed healing is that of hurting, inner emotions stemming from past memories.  Scripture calls bruised past emotions as well as physical and moral weaknesses, "infirmities." 
Luke 7:21 And in that same hour he cured many of their infirmities and plagues, and of evil spirits; and unto many that were blind he gave sight. 

   One of the major reasons people hold onto painful past memories is the "Blame Someone else Syndrome." It's your parent's, teachers, churches, class mates, brothers and sister's fault that you have this bad painful inner memory.  Have you ever heard the expression, "No one can emotionally hurt you unless you let them!"  That's right, you allowed yourself to feel emotional pain and have carried that memory around ever since. 
     You may have received a tremendous shock and the memory has stayed with you.  No matter what you do, you simply can't get rid of it.  When it comes up to your conscience level,  you think about the painful inner memory.  It begins to shock and fester inside your heart all over again.  The more you think about it, the more you begin to hurt or fell anger.  Next time the memory comes up, more pain is added and you begin to feel tormented by the past as if it just happened.  Torment, is added to torment until the pain has gotten bigger than life.
     Who's fault is it? Someone else was involved when the memory took  place, so you blame them for the pain you feel now.  They may have caused you pain then, so the "pain you are feeling now" their fault.  No, it is not!  You are causing the pain to yourself now.   That memory happened sometime ago and is only a painful memory now.  By thinking and dwelling upon that terrible memory of the past, you are allowing yourself to feel pain now.  "No one can emotionally hurt you unless you let them!" You are letting the pain happen by dwelling upon that memory!
     The blame syndrome is a condition that a person has perpetuated most of their adult lives.  It starts in childhood during a hurtful act done to them by someone else.  By word, action or even a mean look a person can get emotionally hurt.  At this point a person has made a conscience or an unconscience choice to allow themselves emotional scarring.  For many of us, we were too young and inexperienced not to be emotionally hurt.  It's how we handle these past hurts as adults that matters to us now.
     Are you ready to receive healing for inner hurts?  In John Jesus asked a man if he was ready to be made whole?  What did the man do but blame others for not receiving his healing.  The "Blame Someone else Syndrome" got in the way of his healing.
     John 5:4 For an angel went down at a certain season into the pool, and troubled the water: whosoever then first after the troubling of the water stepped in was made whole of whatsoever disease he had. And a certain man was there, which had an infirmity thirty and eight years. When Jesus saw him lie, and knew that he had been now a long time in that case, he saith unto him, Wilt thou be made whole? The impotent man answered him, Sir, I have no man, when the water is troubled, to put me into the pool: but while I am coming, another steppeth down before me. Jesus saith unto him, Rise, take up thy bed, and walk. 
    The man blamed others for preventing him from receiving his healing, is this right? Do you think God wants us to use excuses to get out of receiving our healing, or does He want us to walk by faith, ever ready to whatever the Lord would give to us.  Instead of being lazy we need to take responsibility for our own actions. 
    Look at it this way, think about something you do NOT DO like smoking, drinking, swearing, stealing or committing adultery.  Ok, now what happens when Satan tempts you by bringing thoughts of that thing you do NOT DO up in your mind?  You rebuke it by refusing to think and dwell upon it.  You made up your mind that you would not allow it to be part of you right? 
     Now what happens when Satan brings up a painful inner memory from the past to your mind? You run with it don't you? You think and dwell upon that memory allowing it to hurt you all over again.  Satan knows when we are at our weakest moments and then strikes.  The Lord wants us to put a guard over your heart by consistently being in His Word and praying. 
     We have to first desire inner healing enough to receive healing. Then we have to take responsibility for our own actions and admit to ourselves that we are causing our own pain...now.  Satan is bringing it to our minds but we choose to let it hurt us by dwelling upon it.  We need to acknowledge to ourselves that we are remembering the past and allowing the pain to re-hurt us again.  Inner pain of the past memory festers and hurts us, because we choose to allow it to re-hurt us all over again.  So what should we do, humble our pride.  When we humble our pride and are truthful with ourselves,... then we will be ready to start to receive healing for inner painful memories.  Are you ready yet? Read on!

    2  Corinthians12:8-10 For this thing I besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me. And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.

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